A number of relationships and marriages have been broken over the misunderstanding which exists from the activities of one partner or the other. Have you ever thought if it’s really possible to lose a relationship or marriage just by liking a post or sending a wrong emoji?
Yes! I it is very likely and possible as proven by a psychologist, showing too much interest in the social media engagement of other people other than your partner can be interpreted or considered as acts of infidelity or subbed with the term ‘Micro-cheating’.
Different actions can be attached to this; some are trivial, while others have emotional impact equal to sleeping with someone else according to the expert. Dr Martin Graff, a psychologist from the University of South Wales says that the click of a mouse button, or even a tap on your phone screen can be enough to put you at risk of micro-cheating, actions such as adding a former partner on social media apps, using emojis with romantic connotations (heart ❤, kisses 😘…) in online communication, saving opposite sex contact details with false names, sending complimentary messages either publicly or privately to an opposite sex, tagging an opposite sex on an inside joke… The list is endless!
WHAT THEN IS MICRO-CHEATING?
Simply put, it’s a grey area between having a friendly interaction and infidelity particularly on the internet. While speaking, Dr Graff who’s an associate fellow of the British Psychologist Society stated that ‘in terms of human history and communication and relationships, micro-cheating is new,’ it is quite viral and usually unnoticed, in fact it goes down to incessantly liking someone’s post on Instagram or commenting repeatedly on their post’s on Facebook.
Another interesting view of this was recently addressed by an Australian psychologist Melanie Schilling. She said: ‘if you’re secretly connecting with another person on social media, downplaying or being hideous about the seriousness of your relationship, or being at denial of your status relationship-wise; these are signs of ‘covert flirtation’.
Meanwhile, micro-cheating is not a generally acceptable concept, it has been criticised by some members of the society, being perceived as an idea which encourages controlling behaviour of one partner, as well as intrusion of privacy, spying on the online activities of your significant other. It is even perceived as a form of abuse by some others.
Now the question is, do these add up? Could you really be cheating because you incessantly liked his/her pictures in many times in a row? Are you already cheating when you flirt with other people apart from your partner, should we not be able to have conversations with other people online? If not, why then is it ‘social’ media if we can’t socialize?
Do you really think it’s a good idea to spy on your partner online? Will it maintain a level of faithfulness or cause more havoc? A number of questions pop up in our heads on this topic, but are you MICRO-CHEATING?
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